Mary Kay & Scott

“She’s very dedicated to the things that are important to her in her life, which really mirror a lot of the things that are important to me. We just really hit it off right away and it was really neat.” - Scott

What was your dating life like before you joined The Right One?

Mary Kay: It wasn’t like I didn’t date a lot, but the few times before I had met Scott, I had gone on some blind dates and was somewhat disappointed. We didn’t have a great deal in common and for me, there was no real attraction. I’m very dedicated and I knew that finding somebody at a bar or something, in your 40s, I didn’t want that. I was real reluctant to try online dating because I didn’t think the screening and stuff was there. You really didn’t know who you were dealing with at all and I didn’t trust it.

Mary Kay, what inspired you to join The Right One?

Mary Kay: They sent me an email and I responded to it probably because I was bored, because I needed to be out on a date but I wasn’t. I hadn’t quite finished answering the profile and actually my laptop ran out of battery, so I just forgot about it and they emailed me back. I’m glad they did because otherwise I wouldn’t have met Scott. I was interested in it just because I knew it was a safer way to go, since they were going to do the screening. That’s a big deal in this world; in our society it can be kind of scary, and a couple of bad experiences, you might just stay home for the rest of your life.

Scott, what inspired you to try The Right One?

Scott: I actually was playing on the Internet and I found The Right One. What attracted me to it was the “weeding out” process of just finding somebody you’re compatible with. I’m from a lot smaller community than Mary Kay is, so your business is pretty much everybody’s business. That’s another reason I probably would have never gone to an Internet dating site or anything like that, where you put your picture on it and all that. I felt like if you’re paying for this service, obviously they’re professionals and they’re going to provide a good service and find somebody you’re compatible with because that’s really what it’s all about.

How did you like working with the people at The Right One? What did you enjoy about the interview process?

Scott: I think it took about an hour to an hour and a half. The gal that interviewed me, her name was Charity. She was a very, very nice gal and she had a good personality and she made it a lot of fun. She’s very good at her job and she totally suckered me. But as Mary Kay said, it turned out really good because I would have never met Mary Kay had it not been for that.

Mary Kay: I actually had the same person and you didn’t feel as though she was pressuring you into anything, like a typical marketing and sales person. I really enjoyed her. I spent a great deal of time and I was there pretty late and actually we had a lot of fun. I didn’t go there with the intention of joining; I just was curious. I was just looking for more information to see what it was all about. She was a real doll. And then I think it was important because actually Scott and I have a number of things in common and things that we enjoy doing. It was comforting to know, for example, that he’s not a big sports fanatic; a lot of men are and I’m not. So that is just one of a number of things that was comforting to know. I didn’t have to force myself into watching sports on the weekends anymore. It’s just a small example.

What number referral were you for each other?

Mary Kay: Scott was my first and I was Scott’s second.

Tell me about your first date.

Mary Kay: We went to Kona Grille in Omaha. It’s a real nice restaurant that we met at on a Sunday at like 4:00 or 4:30. We live about an hour and 50 minutes apart.

Scott: But we do have some mutual friends and relatives. Mary Kay’s sister lives just probably 10 minutes from me.

Mary Kay: When I first talked to Charity, she asked me how far away I’d consider and she must have thought we were a pretty decent match because I remember she asked me if I would make an exception. And I said, “Well, my sister lives there anyway, so close to him.” When I first went in, I thought that was too far away but it seems to have worked out. It would be nice to have him in the same town but I think we care enough about one another that we’re making it work.

Mary Kay, what was your first impression of Scott?

Mary Kay: I would say I was attracted to him right away but after a few hours, I was even more attracted to him. He’s got such a kind soul and I knew that right away about him. And the more time I spent with him, the more time I wanted to spend with him. And actually, we spent a great deal of time, since it turned into Sunday evening quickly and there were a lot of places even in Omaha that were closed. We had a lovely dinner and we walked for a long time and we didn’t want to leave one another. I didn’t get home until after 9:00 and I live 10 minutes away from the Kona Grille. I don’t think we intended to do that but it just happened that way.

Scott: Yeah, it was awesome! It was quite a nice evening.

What was your first impression of Mary Kay?

Scott: She was a very, very pretty gal and I was attracted to her almost immediately. Just talking to her, we had a lot in common and she is just a very warm, pleasant person and she has a great personality and she’s very dedicated to the things that are important to her in her life, which really mirror a lot of the things that are important to me. We just really hit it off right away and it was really neat.

Are you able to see each other pretty frequently, considering the distance between you?

Scott: With what I do, I’m busier in certain seasons. Right now I’m in a busy time but last week we were together almost all weekend. And we see each other at least two nights and one day a week at least.

Mary Kay: We usually see one another on the weekends and then we try to see each other on Wednesday evenings. I have a very demanding job and this is Scott’s busiest time, so we make time for one another.

What do your friends and relatives think of how you met?

Mary Kay: I really haven’t mentioned it to too many people but the few that I have were all very supportive; they just felt the same way that I did, that it’s a safer way to go. I spend so much time with my coworkers and they know me very well. For a long time they said, “How are you going to meet anybody if you don’t do anything about it? Are you having fun by yourself on the weekends?” So they would always ask when I came in on Monday, “What did you do?” And I would say, “Not much. I watched some movies.” And so they would get on my back and they were all very supportive of it.

How do you like to spend your time together?

Mary Kay: We like to go on walks. We like to help one another out. Last week he had a great deal of time because it had rained so much. Anything that needed to be done in my house, Scott did it in just a couple of days. Just ordinary everyday things. As long as we’re together, we enjoy doing it.

Scott: We like to watch movies, love to go out to dinner and have a glass of Merlot together. We love to talk and we spend a lot of time talking and we agree on a lot of the same things. That’s kind of nice. I think Mary Kay and I both understand that if we try and pretend we’re somebody we’re not, there is no way that this will work. We have to be realistic.

Mary Kay: I told Scott, “What you see is what you get.” I’m not going to be anybody but myself right from the get-go and sometimes that comes with age. I just have to be myself. I don’t care what we do together as long as we can spend time together, even if it’s getting him caught up to make sure he has his shopping done for the next couple of weeks. It doesn’t matter to me because I’m just as happy helping him and I know he feels the same way.

Do you talk about the future?

Mary Kay: Sometimes. Scott has done it. It’s probably a little too soon. I’m a very cautious person.

Scott: We’re going to Las Vegas and getting married next week. That was a joke!

Do you have any advice for people who might be considering joining The Right One?

Mary Kay: I think for women who want to save themselves a lot of grief and time, that it’s a really valuable service. In this day and age the screening and everything is pretty important.

Any advice from you, Scott?

Scott: Both of us lead very busy lives, as I’m sure a lot of people that would be part of your service do. Just meeting people that you have a lot in common with is pretty important. It can just lead to a lot of happier days rather than being frustrated.

Mary Kay: I think overall Scott and I are thrilled that we had the opportunity to meet.