The Right One ~ Kirsten & Jeff

”He proposed on the back porch of our house, where we’ll be living for the next 30 years. That was a really great way to do it.” - Kirsten

Kirsten, describe your dating life before you joined The Right One?
I had tried the bar scene. I used to go out with other single girlfriends and sometimes I’d meet people, but nothing would come of it. I didn’t really want to date anyone I worked with. I had also tried services like Match and eHarmony and I met some people that way, but again, nothing really long lasting.

What was your opinion of matchmakers & online dating sites before you tried The Right One?
I thought there wasn’t really much involvement in an individuals search for a partner. It’s kind of a meat market. It wasn’t based on any true compatibility. I like the Right One. It does weed out the people who aren’t serious or may not be ready to meet someone. It’s nice they did the background checks.

What inspired you to try The Right One?
I had just moved to Waltham and thought I would give it a try. I called them and went in for an interview a few days later. I was a little skeptical at first. The woman I met with was really professional and she came across very well, so I decided I would go for since because I tried every other possible option I could think of to find someone.

And your goal was marriage and children…
Yeah, that’s the thing. I was 28 or 29 when I signed up for it and I wanted marriage and children. I thought I would be proactive and take the first step. I just put myself out there. There were four people I met before Jeff and they were all nice people but we just didn’t feel the chemistry.

Tell me about meeting Jeff. What was your first impression of him?
When I first met him, I thought he was really easy to get along with, really easy to talk to. I didn’t feel nervous or self-conscious. He seemed like a very warm, smart, and friendly person. We had drinks at a place near my place, and it was really easy and comfortable.

What do your friends think about how you two met?
They think it’s great. I didn’t want to hide it from anyone. I work with someone who met her husband through a similar service.

Congratulations on getting engaged! Can you tell me about the proposal?
We had been looking at houses six months ago. At the time, Jeff had said: “You know, if we’re looking for houses, maybe we should look at rings.” One day he suggested that we have lunch on the back porch of our new house. I thought something was up. So we set up a picnic and relaxed on the back porch. Among the sandwiches and margaritas, it was there that he asked me. He proposed on the back porch of our house, where we’ll be living for the next 30 years. That was a really great way to do it.

When is the wedding?
It will be the fall around October of 2009. We want it to be a fall wedding with all the changing colors on the trees.

What are your future plans?
We both want kids at some point. We’re not rushing it, but it’s definitely something we want.

How can others searching for love via The Right One benefit from your experience?
I would say that it definitely worked for me. I would recommend this to other people who want to join. Try to be as specific as possible as to what kind of person you’re looking for. You have to be open. I felt a little bit discouraged when I didn’t immediately meet someone right away, but it’s amazing how your idea of who you think you’re compatible with can change. Deep down you might need something different then you originally thought. I definitely found that to be true.