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The Right One ~ Marli & Jeff

”We’ve tried a lot of things together. We just seem to have an awful lot in common.” - Marli

Marli, describe your dating life to me before you joined The Right One.

It was pretty non-existent. I had tried Match.com and eHarmony but it just wasn’t working at all. It was time to try something new.

What was your opinion of matchmakers & online dating sites before you tried The Right One?

I had some formed some friendships, but that was about it. I just went through an awful lot of questions. I guess I really contemplated on the questions and wondered if people were really answering them truthfully.

What inspired you to try The Right One?

I was contacted and I thought I’d go in and see what it was all about. It just blossomed from there.

How did you like working with them?

They were very friendly and sociable. They seemed to understand the difference in the dating world today and that people are just trying to find different avenues to meet. I think it’s probably different for each generation and some of the techniques that are used today, for example with online dating, are set up for a younger generation.

Did you like the interview process? Can you tell me how that works?

Yes, the interview process was good. I was answering an awful lot of questions but after that part of it was over, the person who interviewed me brought my personality out. I’m not really sure what they do with all of that, but somehow it seemed to work.

Tell me about meeting Jeff. Who made the initial contact?

I actually made the initial contact. I had been notified probably two weeks prior and was waiting for him to contact me, and I was kind of seeing another gentleman through The Right One, but I wasn’t that intrigued with him, mainly because he smoked. So I just called Jeff and wondered if he would like to get together for coffee, and he called me back and we made arrangements to meet that week.

How many men had you met through the service before you met Jeff?

Just two.

Describe your first date. What did you do? How did it go?

We met in an old market area in a downtown area of Omaha that has been refurbished. A lot of old buildings and a real neat place to just wander around and shop and stop for coffee, that type of thing. We went to this nice little place for coffee, and we talked for a couple of hours. Then he had to go, and so we parted company. That was about it for the first date, but we really got to know each other quite well in those two hours. We shared a lot of information.

What was your first impression of Jeff?

We met on the street corner, and I wasn’t quite sure what to think. He seemed like a bundle of energy, and yes, I was somewhat taken with him. He had a fast walk, and was very sociable and talkative, and that intrigued me.

What do your friends think about the way you two met?

They thought it was kind of neat. They were asking me about it and how it went, because they knew that I had not had much success in that avenue of my life. So they were thrilled.

How do you like to spend your time together?

We’ve tried a lot of things together. We’ve tried skeet shooting. He roller blades and I bike a bit so we got out to do that. We’ve gone to a couple of movies, gone out to eat. When the weather turns cooler we’ll probably start dancing. We just seem to have an awful lot in common.

Is it too soon to talk about the future?

Yes. In my mind, I could see being with him for quite a while. I think he thinks the same thing, but right now he’s in the process of dealing with a situation with his daughter as far as her health, and I think they need to get through that situation before he can really concentrate on something down the road. I think he’s anxious to move on with his life, and I think he thinks as highly of me as I do of him, so we’ll just see where it goes from there.

Do you have any advice for others searching for love via The Right One Dating service?

Don’t give up. It may not be the first person that you meet, but you just never know who is right around the corner.

The Right One ~ Kirsten & Jeff

”He proposed on the back porch of our house, where we’ll be living for the next 30 years. That was a really great way to do it.” - Kirsten

Kirsten, describe your dating life before you joined The Right One?
I had tried the bar scene. I used to go out with other single girlfriends and sometimes I’d meet people, but nothing would come of it. I didn’t really want to date anyone I worked with. I had also tried services like Match and eHarmony and I met some people that way, but again, nothing really long lasting.

What was your opinion of matchmakers & online dating sites before you tried The Right One?
I thought there wasn’t really much involvement in an individuals search for a partner. It’s kind of a meat market. It wasn’t based on any true compatibility. I like the Right One. It does weed out the people who aren’t serious or may not be ready to meet someone. It’s nice they did the background checks.

What inspired you to try The Right One?
I had just moved to Waltham and thought I would give it a try. I called them and went in for an interview a few days later. I was a little skeptical at first. The woman I met with was really professional and she came across very well, so I decided I would go for since because I tried every other possible option I could think of to find someone.

And your goal was marriage and children…
Yeah, that’s the thing. I was 28 or 29 when I signed up for it and I wanted marriage and children. I thought I would be proactive and take the first step. I just put myself out there. There were four people I met before Jeff and they were all nice people but we just didn’t feel the chemistry.

Tell me about meeting Jeff. What was your first impression of him?
When I first met him, I thought he was really easy to get along with, really easy to talk to. I didn’t feel nervous or self-conscious. He seemed like a very warm, smart, and friendly person. We had drinks at a place near my place, and it was really easy and comfortable.

What do your friends think about how you two met?
They think it’s great. I didn’t want to hide it from anyone. I work with someone who met her husband through a similar service.

Congratulations on getting engaged! Can you tell me about the proposal?
We had been looking at houses six months ago. At the time, Jeff had said: “You know, if we’re looking for houses, maybe we should look at rings.” One day he suggested that we have lunch on the back porch of our new house. I thought something was up. So we set up a picnic and relaxed on the back porch. Among the sandwiches and margaritas, it was there that he asked me. He proposed on the back porch of our house, where we’ll be living for the next 30 years. That was a really great way to do it.

When is the wedding?
It will be the fall around October of 2009. We want it to be a fall wedding with all the changing colors on the trees.

What are your future plans?
We both want kids at some point. We’re not rushing it, but it’s definitely something we want.

How can others searching for love via The Right One benefit from your experience?
I would say that it definitely worked for me. I would recommend this to other people who want to join. Try to be as specific as possible as to what kind of person you’re looking for. You have to be open. I felt a little bit discouraged when I didn’t immediately meet someone right away, but it’s amazing how your idea of who you think you’re compatible with can change. Deep down you might need something different then you originally thought. I definitely found that to be true.

The Right One ~ Lori & Ed

”I was anticipating a warm, caring, loving woman and I got that and a whole lot more. I was definitely impressed with her.”

Describe your dating life before you joined The Right One.
Lori: I used different dating sites like Match and Catholic Match. I would date friends of people, that sort of thing.

Ed: I spent a lot of time on Internet sites that weren’t giving me the type of person I was looking for. I eventually came to a point in my life where I wanted to settle down and try to build a new life again, which is why I went to The Right One.

What was your opinion of matchmakers & online dating sites before you tried The Right One?
Ed: I was finding myself meeting people who actually misrepresented themselves. But the way The Right One is designed, everything is legitimate and professional, and that’s why I went with it.

When did you find out that people misrepresented themselves when you were online dating?
Ed: The First date. They said they might be 5’ 7”, have blond hair, blue eyes and an hour glass figure, and then be the exact opposite, to put it lightly, which was disconcerting.

What inspired you to try The Right One?
Lori: I guess I was looking for a service that could provide me with quality people. I liked the fact that it was actually a real person who was picking these people, and that they did background checks.

Ed: I got divorced and wasn’t putting in much effort with dating on my own. The Right One provided the opportunity for me to have people “arrive” in my mailbox, people who, like me, were looking to write the next chapter in their lives.

How does the interview process work? How did you like working with The Right One?
Lori: The interview process was really intense. My interview took about three hours. I felt that she really got a good sense of who I am.

Ed: I agree with Lori that the interview was definitely very comprehensive. It definitely gave me the ability to put all of my red flags on the forefront so they knew what not to look for. And once the process started, the counselor who worked with me was very excited and supportive of me all the way through.

Describe your first date. What did you do? How did it go?
Ed: We spent the time talking and getting to know each other. It was very comfortable and easy to hold a conversation, to joke and laugh. I did want to show my polite, romantic and sweet side by making sure that she was there. I then I acknowledged her after she went inside by calling and telling her that she had left her car lights on. Since I was parked behind her, I would present her with a hello and flowers. That was my intention. But considering society today, however, it was more of a shock than a surprise for her. With quick wit and a smile we laughed it off and had a great time.

What was your first impression of each other?
Lori: He certainly surprised me. He was dressed in a suit with a pink rose, which was very sweet. I thought he was a true gentleman.

Ed: I was definitely impressed with her, and my first knee jerk reaction was “Don’t say or do anything stupid to ruin this.”

What do your friends think about how you two met?
Lori: My friends thought the service was a good idea. They were supportive and happy.

Ed: Their goal is to see me happy. Some of my friends were supportive, and some waited to see what would happen.

How about your life together now, what do you do for fun? Do you get to see each other often?
Lori: We’ve been dating for four months now. We go out or we’ll stay home and watch movies. We do a lot of things. We’re always together and we’re both teachers so we have the summers off, so that’s been helpful.

Do you talk about the future?
Lori: We do talk about the future. We’re planning a very, very big vacation next year to Disney with the kids.

Ed: We’re very casual. The kids get along well and we try to do things together. I have said before, when you’re a member of the Right One, it is instilled in your mind, if you feel that way, that the focus is to meet the next best thing that ever happened to you. When both parties hit it off, it should be understood that if you continue, you only have one goal. That goal is to write the next chapter, culminating in marriage. So when Lori and I hit it off, there was that small window to back out if you didn’t want to build that long relationship. We clearly closed that window and we are building a future that will last forever. We do have a very romantic trip planned, and yes, we’re definitely thinking about big trips for the future with the kids.

Do you have any advice for others searching for love using The Right One?
Lori: Don’t put too much pressure on the first meeting, and don’t think that in that first meeting that you’re going to find your husband or wife. Just be easygoing and let things happen.

Ed: Make sure that chapter one is completely closed before beginning the next chapter in your life.